“You’re not like the others. I’ve seen a few; I know. When I talk, you look at me. When I said something about the moon, you looked at the moon, last night. The others would never do that. The others would walk off and leave me talking. Or threaten me. No one has time any more for anyone else. You’re one of the few who put up with me. “ Ray Bradbury
I’ve noticed that a lot of people don’t have time for others. Many of us fail to create spaces in our lives for others to inhabit. We tend to keep our lives so full that there simply isn’t room. We’re in a rush, moving quickly from one thing to the other, completely missing the moment.
I don’t think people are intentionally insensitive to others. I’ve noticed that most people don’t have any space in their lives for themselves. They are consumed by their jobs, their bills, their meetings, their emails, their vacations, their tv shows. They keep their lives so full, there simply isn’t any room.
We are often so resistant to creating space in our lives. We are afraid of navigating the silence, the stillness and all the stuff that emerges from it. There is, most likely, a reason you have been distracting yourself for however many years, so be patient and kind to yourself as you meet the stuff inside. Mindfulness and self-compassion are necessary tools to take with you on any journey inward. That which you don’t meet, what you push down, what you distract yourself from, runs your life behind the scenes. You don’t want that. Trust me.
Sometimes I wonder if I’m the only person in my patients life who truly has time for them. We shouldn’t have to pay people to listen to us, to love us, to make space for us.
Maybe we could all turn off the tv, shut down the computer, put the phone away, and look at the moon. If someone is with you, point it out to them. And notice how you feel when they look and see it with you.